I just wanted to say to you students that I appreciate your honesty and responses to tackling this tough subject of prejudice last night. If you felt somewhat uncomfortable or were challenged to evaluate your thoughts and actions on this subject, then great!
Where do we go with this, though? I would hope that we aren’t ok with holding on to our prejudices, so here’s three things: (1) Reach out, make the effort to get to know someone, (2) Watch your words and (3) Learn to respect and celebrate differences.
Reach out, make the effort to get to know someone. The simplest answer to dealing with our prejudices is to make friends. If prejudice builds walls then the opposite of that is to build bridges to other people and to make friendships. I would like to suggest to you that you see people as human and not just as skin color, not just as style of clothes or whatever. There’s more in common than you might suspect. We are all a bundle of talents and hopes and fears and dreams and insecurities. Reach out and make a friend. That’s how you can do something with your prejudice.
Watch your words. I’ve always been amazed and really hurt when I’ve heard some of the jokes or harsh words that students in my ministry, people in my family and even myself have said. I think about some of the stuff we say to each other and when we say words that cut and kill one another. Usually these careless words are rationalized away by saying, it’s just a joke. I just was kidding. People say that as if a joke were powerless to wound and rip and tear someone to pieces. I firmly believe that if most of us would just shut our mouths a lot of damage would be avoided. If we would just watch what’s happening in this little two-inch area of our body and just be more sensitive, more compassionate with our mouths then a lot of pain wouldn’t happen, wouldn’t exist.
The last one says learn to respect and celebrate differences. Again, this series and this message is about speaking the truth to you. Differences do exist. I don’t think we should ignore differences. I don’t think we should pretend they’re not there or deny them. We need to acknowledge them and realize they’re there.
There’s differences between the way people talk and the way people think about family and the way people even worship God. It’s important if you’re going to reach out is how can you respect these differences where you can look at them and think, “That kind of bothers me but I’m going to respect it.” I think we should move to an area of respect where you can look at someone and say, “That’s great about you, about your culture.” Then finally celebrate. That just means to be excited with somebody about their differences. I think that is the key, the final place, when you can be with someone who is totally different from you and be excited about their differences and not let that bother you.
We’ve talked about a simple problem. It’s simple to describe. Prejudice just means judging others based on fear or inaccurate assumptions. Even though this is a simple problem – the consequences are devastating. We talked about a solution and it’s a simple solution to just put some steps on a page and say, reach out in friendship. But even though it’s simple, it’s so difficult, it’s hard.
I encourage you to take a hard look at your life, get some time alone today, maybe before you go to bed, maybe it’s just 10 minutes or whatever. Stop and think, is prejudice an area of your life where God wants to work? If so, it’s my prayer that you can open yourself up to His leading.
Thursday, April 5, 2007
Monday, April 2, 2007
Happy Birthday Brock!
Just a little "dad" post here to brag about my oldest. We celebrated his birthday this weekend and it's sometimes hard for me to believe that I'm a parent of an 8-year old. I'm very proud of the young man that he is becoming. We got to participate in a father/son campout this weekend with our church and Brock brought his own tent and slept in it all by himself right next to my tent. So the transition to manhood is already underway! I know God has an incredible plan for his life and I'm excited that I have the opportunity to watch in unfold and share in the journey. He's becoming quite an athlete and excels in school. He has a great love for his family and friends and loves being connected to the life of the church (especially when he gets to come upstairs and hang out with the students). I'm just proud of him. I love you son... Happy 8th birthday!
Thursday, March 29, 2007
Beyond the Message: Death
I've had some good feedback from you students about going beyond the message on my last series, so I will do that again for this "Untouchables" series. The first untouchable subject that doesn't get talked alot about is death. I tried last night to help you understand that, even though it may be weird or uncomfortable to talk about it, the Bible tells us that we are wise to think about death.
Death is a natural occurrence in our lives. The Bible also tells us in Ecclesiastes that there is a season for everything – a time to be born and a time to die. Death is something that is reality for everyone – no one can escape it. We all are born and we all we die. So understanding that is natural should help ease some of the fear about death. Death is simply a part of life.
I didn't have too much time tonight to go into this, but death was not a part of God’s original design. Had Adam and Eve not sinned there would be no death. God created us for life and that life He created us for was an abundant life that centered on a relationship with Him. But we chose to rebel and sin - and with sin comes death. God didn’t design death, but death became a curse of sin. And because of our sin nature – death comes with it.
Death is a reality, but it is to remain in the hands of God and not man. Look at what Paul says should be the Christian’s position on death… "Christ will be exalted in my body, whether by life or by death. For me to live is Christ and to die is gain" (Philippians 1:20-21).
Isn't that a little confusing, but a powerful statement? Paul is saying I'm going to use the life God gave me for Christ! As long as I have life that means I'm living life in Christ and that is a good thing. But he also says to die is gain. Most of us are OK with the living life is Christ, but we're not so sure about death being gain. What's there to gain in the grave? Paul knew that life - true life - is gained in death. Because no longer am I living FOR Christ, but now I am living life WITH Christ! That is the gain. That was God's original design - that we would be with Him forever. That is why Paul can say death is gain.
I know that is a hard perspective to develop. God's still working on that in my life. I love life and everything that comes with it. But I want to learn to grow towards loving death. Not in some sick, twisted way... but in the Biblical perspective of longing to be with my Creator & Savior!
Where do you go with this? As Psalms says, you'd be wise to think about death. Where will you spend eternity? Where will your family and friends spend eternity? If you need help answering that question - I'd love to talk to you more on this topic!
Death is a natural occurrence in our lives. The Bible also tells us in Ecclesiastes that there is a season for everything – a time to be born and a time to die. Death is something that is reality for everyone – no one can escape it. We all are born and we all we die. So understanding that is natural should help ease some of the fear about death. Death is simply a part of life.
I didn't have too much time tonight to go into this, but death was not a part of God’s original design. Had Adam and Eve not sinned there would be no death. God created us for life and that life He created us for was an abundant life that centered on a relationship with Him. But we chose to rebel and sin - and with sin comes death. God didn’t design death, but death became a curse of sin. And because of our sin nature – death comes with it.
Death is a reality, but it is to remain in the hands of God and not man. Look at what Paul says should be the Christian’s position on death… "Christ will be exalted in my body, whether by life or by death. For me to live is Christ and to die is gain" (Philippians 1:20-21).
Isn't that a little confusing, but a powerful statement? Paul is saying I'm going to use the life God gave me for Christ! As long as I have life that means I'm living life in Christ and that is a good thing. But he also says to die is gain. Most of us are OK with the living life is Christ, but we're not so sure about death being gain. What's there to gain in the grave? Paul knew that life - true life - is gained in death. Because no longer am I living FOR Christ, but now I am living life WITH Christ! That is the gain. That was God's original design - that we would be with Him forever. That is why Paul can say death is gain.
I know that is a hard perspective to develop. God's still working on that in my life. I love life and everything that comes with it. But I want to learn to grow towards loving death. Not in some sick, twisted way... but in the Biblical perspective of longing to be with my Creator & Savior!
Where do you go with this? As Psalms says, you'd be wise to think about death. Where will you spend eternity? Where will your family and friends spend eternity? If you need help answering that question - I'd love to talk to you more on this topic!
Wednesday, March 28, 2007
Disaster Relief Mission: Pics, Stories and Investing
I've been meaning to get back to this and write some more about the Disaster Relief Mission I just returned from with my students in Bay St. Louis, MS. It was such an incredible time to meet new residents and work on their homes. God provided us some beautiful weather to work in during our time there.
The first home we worked on was for a sweet elderly lady who was waiting for her new home to be built. She and some of her pets survived the storm, but her home didn't and she was starting over. We were the team that was prepping the foundation for a stilt style home - so that meant digging 2' square holes 3' deep... and we had to do 12 of them.
Not bad work with an auger, but a little tougher with just posthole diggers and shovels. Much harder work after you hit the water table after only about a foot. Digging mud isn't fun. Apparently one of my leaders likes to take pictures of my backside. She'll remain nameless.
Sheet rocking was next as we had the opportunity to work on a home that would be occupied by a single mom with one child and one on the way. It was a tiny home, which made maneuvering with 12' sheets pretty tough. Unbelievably we were able to get 80% of the home done in 2 days. It took alot of prep work by removing the old paneling, nails, a gazillion staples and then hanging some new insulation. Some of our team even worked outside our assigned job and started cleaning up the yard and landscaping.
Our final project was a roofing job. We were on a 2-story roof with the task of removing the blue roof (you see alot of blue roofs still down there) and the stripping shingles and nails and laying new paper. Fortunately, even though it was high, we had a good pitch to work from. It wasn't quite the view and weather I had roofing on a mission trip in Seattle overlooking Puget Sound a few years ago, but again, God gave us some great weather. Being on a roof pulling nails does something to you when you don't have music to listen to... so to pass the time we sang every song we could come up with, but inserted the word "roof" or any other roofing term. Needless to say, we were definitely "bringing roofing back."
Loads of hard work, but I didn't really think about it. Well, at least not when I was working. I was thinking about it more at night in the bunkhouse with a truckload of snoring old men that sounded like jackhammers working a street somewhere. At 2:30 in the morning when you can't sleep due to the loudness you tend to notice how sore you are, how the mattress you are sleeping on feels like a 2x4 and how much you wish you weren't a light sleeper.
I walk away from these trips really struggling with the concept of ministering to the least of these. It's easy to go somewhere and help for a period of time, but does my daily life match my life "on mission." I just pray more and more that I would be able to see people through the eyes of Christ. And I want to invest in things that will last... things that a storm can't take away. To know God's Word and to give it to others is investing in eternity... that's where I want my investments to end up!
Saturday, March 24, 2007
Disaster Relief Mission: Bay St. Louis, MS
This will probably be the first of a few posts and hopefully I will get some pics up here from the trip. Now that the trip is winding down I've found a moment of free time to write a little about the trip and what God has been doing.
This is my fifth trip over here to the Katrina damaged city of Bay St. Louis (and surrounding areas) of Mississippi. My first trip was only a few months after Katrina hit and I've never been the same since. I've never seen so much destruction and devestation and yet somehow seen God working in the middle of it.
So much life has returned here, although a year and a half later there is still so much work to be done. The people and their stories are amazing. We met a family on this trip that literally rode the storm out with each other and their dogs tied to a tree with Christmas lights they found in their attic. It's humbling to see their living conditions of being stuck in a tiny trailer for all this time. But it is exciting to be working for them to get them back in their homes.
God was definitely here this trip. He always is, but I was able to see Him work in really powerful ways through our students all the while teaching them about what it means to "walk as Jesus walked" (1 John 2:6).
I love coming here but it is always hard for me to leave. I think I leave some of my heart behind because of the relationships we are able to build and the work we have been able to accomplish. I'm always challenged everytime I come over about how tightly I can cling to my material possesions. That needs to change. Not that stuff is evil, but the desires behind having stuff can be. Helping people throw away everything they owned and tearing apart all that they have left in a house really helps keep things in perspective. I'm reminded of that "only one life will soon be past... only what's done for Christ will last!"
This is my fifth trip over here to the Katrina damaged city of Bay St. Louis (and surrounding areas) of Mississippi. My first trip was only a few months after Katrina hit and I've never been the same since. I've never seen so much destruction and devestation and yet somehow seen God working in the middle of it.
So much life has returned here, although a year and a half later there is still so much work to be done. The people and their stories are amazing. We met a family on this trip that literally rode the storm out with each other and their dogs tied to a tree with Christmas lights they found in their attic. It's humbling to see their living conditions of being stuck in a tiny trailer for all this time. But it is exciting to be working for them to get them back in their homes.
God was definitely here this trip. He always is, but I was able to see Him work in really powerful ways through our students all the while teaching them about what it means to "walk as Jesus walked" (1 John 2:6).
I love coming here but it is always hard for me to leave. I think I leave some of my heart behind because of the relationships we are able to build and the work we have been able to accomplish. I'm always challenged everytime I come over about how tightly I can cling to my material possesions. That needs to change. Not that stuff is evil, but the desires behind having stuff can be. Helping people throw away everything they owned and tearing apart all that they have left in a house really helps keep things in perspective. I'm reminded of that "only one life will soon be past... only what's done for Christ will last!"
Tuesday, March 20, 2007
March Madness
With a title like that you'd think I'd be writing about how much I love all the basketball on TV (despite my bracket crumbling before my eyes) or maybe I'd be writing about how everything in bloom is driving my allergies crazy, but no, March Madness for me is really just my life... and not just my life in March.
I don't know what attracts me to "busyness". But I do know that I've always been that way. I'm not one for sitting on the bench, sitting back or even sitting around. Within me is an insatiable desire to "do" - to be active - to be involved. Maybe that's why I like the concept of March Madness. So much basketball on TV I can't even watch all the games. Maybe my blog and life should be titled "Todd's Madness."
The other day I was talking to our college minister who after hearing my summer schedule had a puzzled look on his face like, "Huh?" While he was saying, "How are you going to do all that?” I was thinking, "Wonder how I can work going on that college mission trip into my summer schedule!"
The story about Mary and Martha in Luke 10 sometimes really bothers me. I don't know if I'm allowed to say that something in the Bible bothers me, but I guess I just did. I've read it and even taught on it so much that I can practically retell it word for word. I think if I were Jesus I would have told Mary to get off her duff and make some cookies or something. But Mary was doing the "most important thing" sitting at the feet of Jesus.
I pray that in my busyness I never lose sight of the most important thing. In fact, I really pray that my busyness stems from the most important thing and that would be loving God and loving others. I don't want to be a Martha. I want to be a Mary that is motivated by my time with Christ to serve like a Martha. I think I'm finding the balance better in this world of my madness!
I don't know what attracts me to "busyness". But I do know that I've always been that way. I'm not one for sitting on the bench, sitting back or even sitting around. Within me is an insatiable desire to "do" - to be active - to be involved. Maybe that's why I like the concept of March Madness. So much basketball on TV I can't even watch all the games. Maybe my blog and life should be titled "Todd's Madness."
The other day I was talking to our college minister who after hearing my summer schedule had a puzzled look on his face like, "Huh?" While he was saying, "How are you going to do all that?” I was thinking, "Wonder how I can work going on that college mission trip into my summer schedule!"
The story about Mary and Martha in Luke 10 sometimes really bothers me. I don't know if I'm allowed to say that something in the Bible bothers me, but I guess I just did. I've read it and even taught on it so much that I can practically retell it word for word. I think if I were Jesus I would have told Mary to get off her duff and make some cookies or something. But Mary was doing the "most important thing" sitting at the feet of Jesus.
I pray that in my busyness I never lose sight of the most important thing. In fact, I really pray that my busyness stems from the most important thing and that would be loving God and loving others. I don't want to be a Martha. I want to be a Mary that is motivated by my time with Christ to serve like a Martha. I think I'm finding the balance better in this world of my madness!
Thursday, March 15, 2007
Beyond the Message: Best Sex Ever Pt. 6
Hey students... like I said last night, some of you are breathing a sigh of relief to know that the "sex talks" are over, but I realize for others of you that this may have brought to surface in your life some painful memories, shame or guilt. Remember, my desire was to simply present truth from someone that loves you and greatly cares about your future!
As we’ve been talking about what the Bible says about sex just remember that sex was God’s idea! He created it! He created it to be wonderful. He created you and I as sexual beings. It was his design. He made it up. He designed our bodies that way. He designed sex to be pleasurable. But He designed it within a boundary; one plus one equals one for all of life. Sex not a purely physical thing, just go out and have sex. It won’t be any big deal. No consequences. Whoever you want. That’s what the world says. God says one plus one equals one, and because of that some of you who have been sexually involved you’ve been kind of putting your hands over your eyes, kind of afraid and are struggling through the concept of “now what?”
So, if that is you and you have walked down that road – if you’ve gone a little too far or if you’ve gone all the way – maybe you’ve said things like: “I don’t like what I’ve become… I wish I could start over… Will this memory ever go away?… Will this crisis ever end? …” I want to tell you that God is crazy about you. You’re not the only person alive who’s ever messed up. God can still invade your life and use you in great ways.
We talked about the truth that God forgives and forgets. Some of you have said, “God, come into my life. I want a relationship with you.” But then you turned your back and you’ve walked the other way. In many ways we flip God off with our life. But do you know what He does? He passionately pursues you. When you walk away from God, you know what He’s doing? He is chasing after you.
Some of you are reading this not knowing that He’s been chasing you to get you to hear, to pause your life, to turn off the TV, to turn off the music, to get away from your friends, to get away from a party, to stop being insecure for just a minute to open up a little bit of your life where He can get into you through the power of the Holy Spirit to get into your life to say, “I love you. I want a relationship with you. Stop running from me. Accept my forgiveness.” Because God not only forgives He also forgets.
If you need to accept God’s forgiveness for the first time in your life, would you just email me (todd@wildwoodstudents.com) so I can pray for you? God is ready to forgive you and make you that new creation that we talked about. He wipes clean your mistakes. As always, I’d love to hear from you guys about how this series impacted your life. Feel free to be honest – share the good and the bad. I love you guys and am praying that you will not only accept God’s forgiveness, but that you would pursue his plan and purpose for your life!
Info/Research for this series has come from: Family Research Council, MTV Surveys, Henry Kaiser Family Foundation, Saddleback Church, USA Today, XXXChurch.com and other miscellaneous articles on various related topics.
As we’ve been talking about what the Bible says about sex just remember that sex was God’s idea! He created it! He created it to be wonderful. He created you and I as sexual beings. It was his design. He made it up. He designed our bodies that way. He designed sex to be pleasurable. But He designed it within a boundary; one plus one equals one for all of life. Sex not a purely physical thing, just go out and have sex. It won’t be any big deal. No consequences. Whoever you want. That’s what the world says. God says one plus one equals one, and because of that some of you who have been sexually involved you’ve been kind of putting your hands over your eyes, kind of afraid and are struggling through the concept of “now what?”
So, if that is you and you have walked down that road – if you’ve gone a little too far or if you’ve gone all the way – maybe you’ve said things like: “I don’t like what I’ve become… I wish I could start over… Will this memory ever go away?… Will this crisis ever end? …” I want to tell you that God is crazy about you. You’re not the only person alive who’s ever messed up. God can still invade your life and use you in great ways.
We talked about the truth that God forgives and forgets. Some of you have said, “God, come into my life. I want a relationship with you.” But then you turned your back and you’ve walked the other way. In many ways we flip God off with our life. But do you know what He does? He passionately pursues you. When you walk away from God, you know what He’s doing? He is chasing after you.
Some of you are reading this not knowing that He’s been chasing you to get you to hear, to pause your life, to turn off the TV, to turn off the music, to get away from your friends, to get away from a party, to stop being insecure for just a minute to open up a little bit of your life where He can get into you through the power of the Holy Spirit to get into your life to say, “I love you. I want a relationship with you. Stop running from me. Accept my forgiveness.” Because God not only forgives He also forgets.
If you need to accept God’s forgiveness for the first time in your life, would you just email me (todd@wildwoodstudents.com) so I can pray for you? God is ready to forgive you and make you that new creation that we talked about. He wipes clean your mistakes. As always, I’d love to hear from you guys about how this series impacted your life. Feel free to be honest – share the good and the bad. I love you guys and am praying that you will not only accept God’s forgiveness, but that you would pursue his plan and purpose for your life!
Info/Research for this series has come from: Family Research Council, MTV Surveys, Henry Kaiser Family Foundation, Saddleback Church, USA Today, XXXChurch.com and other miscellaneous articles on various related topics.
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